Many women have been dreaming about their wedding day since they were little girls. They pictured themselves as breathtaking queens, marrying the man of their dreams in front of all of their loved ones. As great as it may seem in your fantasies, the reality is, before you get to experience that beautiful moment, you have a lot of work to do! The time consuming process of wedding planning can take months or even years, and there are so many details that need to be addressed. You go from feeling over the moon because you just got proposed to, to feeling the most stressed you’ve ever been.
After finding out that you’re engaged, people will immediately ask you a million questions about the wedding that you may have never thought about before. Here’s the hard truth, planning a traditional wedding is a grueling process, and you will most likely be overwhelmed by all the decisions you have to make.
Here are 15 of the worst things about planning a wedding:
- It’s damn expensive!
It’s insane how expensive weddings are! Of course you expect to fork up cash for the venue, food, drinks, the dress, the photographer, the videographer, the band or DJ, and the flowers. What you may forget is that you also have to pay for favours, gifts for your wedding party, transportation, hair and makeup, tips for every vendor, and much, much more. You should start saving for your wedding the moment you get engaged, or sooner if you know it’s coming! The average cost of a wedding in Trinidad is $100,000, but depending on where you have your event, it could be a lot more than that. If you’re fortunate enough, your guests will gift you money to make up for some of the expenses. That being said, don’t rely on your wedding presents to reimburse your costs – many guests will give you less than what you were hoping for.
2. Choosing your bridesmaid squad
The concept of having a bridal party seems like a lot of fun… but unless you have a very clear set of best friends, it can be really tough to choose who your bridesmaids are! You might have a friend you’ve only known for a few months but feel really close to, or a friend you’ve known for forever but don’t talk to regularly. It’s tough to decide who you want to share your special day with. You also have to consider how responsible your friend is before deciding to include them. Almost every bridal party has the one person who doesn’t contribute to anything and makes life harder for the rest of the bridesmaids, so try to avoid that situation if possible. You might also feel obliged to include family members in your bridal party, even if you’re not that close to them. Let’s not forget the Maid of honour. Choosing a maid of honour can be the worst part of assembling your bridal party. Not everyone has a sister or best friend that is an obvious choice.
3. Choosing the right Wedding Vendors
Your wedding may be the most important day of your life, so you’ll want to choose the best vendors for the event. Not all photographers, videographers, florists, and DJs are the same. Picking your vendors will require you to do a lot of research. You might also end up meeting a few in person before you make any decisions, so clear your weekends for meetings! You will have to decide what price you’re comfortable with, and how much you trust this vendor to do a great job. You should ask for portfolios of their previous work so you can see if they fit your style. You can also reach out to your friends and family to see if they recommend anyone. You might find it helpful to go to a few bridal showcases and meet vendors there. Your vendors play a huge role in your wedding, so it’s super stressful to decide which ones to go with.
4. Buying the perfect dress
Watching Say Yes to the Dress is way more fun than actually going dress shopping! Sorry to burst your bride-to-be bubble. In reality, the dress you love could be out of your price range and the assistance you get from a salesperson could be minimal. You might love a dress in a photo, try it on, and realize you don’t look good in it because you’re not a 6 foot tall or an insanely skinny model. You might try on a dress that you adore only to find out that your whole bridal party hates it. You may not be able to choose between two dresses that you really like. There is a lot that can go wrong when you’re looking for a wedding dress. Once you have the dress, you also have to find the right shoes and accessories to go with it. The perfect veil and earrings can be just as hard to find as the dress, so keep that in mind as well!
5. Choosing Bridesmaid dresses
The chances that multiple women will feel great in the same exact dress are pretty slim. Everyone has their own style, so it can be hard to find the dress that makes every bridesmaid happy. The cut of the dress, the color, and the price are all things you have to consider. Although you’re the bride and it’s your special day, you probably want your friends to love their bridesmaid dresses and feel comfortable (at least so they can stay your friends long after the ceremony!) If one person doesn’t like a dress that you and every other bridesmaid loves, you will be put in an uncomfortable position. If your bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses, you have to take their opinion into consideration. If you’re footing the bill, you do have more leverage. It might take a while for everyone to agree on a dress that is flattering and budget friendly.
6. Choosing the right Venue
Choosing a venue is one of the most important parts of planning your wedding. Your venue sets the stage for every other decision you make. You could get married at a hotel, a hall, a beach or even in the botanical gardens – the possibilities are endless. The venue may determine the theme of your big day. It’s important to consider the pros and cons of each venue. Is one way more affordable? Is one really unique? Does one have a beautiful view? Does one offer more services? There are lots of things to consider. You also have to decide how close you want your venue to be to where you and your guests live. If the venue you choose is a bit far, you’ll also have to look into hotel accommodations. Reserve a block of rooms if it’s possible and see if you can get a group rate because your guests will appreciate it.
7. The gift registry
Registering for gifts sounds super awesome. After all, you just make a really specific Christmas list and Santa (your guests) delivers the presents to you. In theory, registering for gifts should be super fun. In reality, it’s really hard! You have to pick a bunch of things you and your future husband would like to have in your home. Things get especially tricky if you think you’ll be staying in your apartment for a while and don’t have room to store all of those gifts. You may have already purchased your home and don’t really need any more house things. Truthfully, it would be a lot easier if everyone gave you money or gift cards so that you could purchase things you need or like on your own schedule. You might also change your mind about things you put on your registry, which will have you running to the store to make returns.
8. Deciding who to invite
Depending on how intimate you want your big day to be, it can be difficult to narrow down who you want to invite. You might also have a strict budget that will determine how many people you can afford to include. If your parents are helping you pay for the wedding, they will likely want to invite a few of their friends as well. If your family is large, you’ll have to figure out where you draw the line. Are all aunts and uncles invited, but no second cousins? You also have to be aware of potentially starting family drama. You may offend a relative who expected to be invited. This can also happen with your coworkers. Although many people do invite their boss and a few colleagues to their wedding, a lot of people decide not to. It’s pretty common for someone to be offended by your invite list, but it’s important to stay true to yourself. Invite the people that matter most to you and your fiancé.
9. Honeymoon Planning
As if planning the wedding wasn’t enough, you have to plan your honeymoon, too! Once again, you will likely be spending a lot of time and money getting everything sorted out. There are lots of options when it comes to choosing a honeymoon destination, and some places are easier to plan a trip than others. If you and your partner are the adventurous type, a beach resort might not be your ideal honeymoon spot. You might wind up going somewhere less touristy, which means you’ll probably have to do more research on flights and hotels. If you’re looking for an easy to plan honeymoon, an all-inclusive resort is probably your best option. A travel agent might help you work out the details, but you’ll still have to spend some time deciding where you want to go and what you want to do. You also have to make sure your passport is ready to go if you’re heading to a country that requires one.
10. The Wedding Rehearsal
Wedding rehearsals are supposed to help you feel confident that everything will go as planned on your big day, and that’s definitely going to cause you some major stress! The actual rehearsal has to be planned as well, though. You’ll have to figure out if your ceremony venue will let you practice walking down their aisle, or if you will have to create your own aisle somewhere else. You’ll also have to decide where to host dinner after the practice run. It may be hard to find a day that is close to the wedding date when everyone involved in the ceremony can get together, so you’ll want to let them know the date as soon as possible. The rehearsal is super important too since this will be your absolute last chance to make sure you have all of your ducks in a row, which can definitely put a lot of pressure on you!
11. Invitations and Save The Dates
Your wedding invitation has to incorporate your theme and give your guests all of the information they need about your big day. Ideally, the invites will go out at least seven weeks before the wedding, but you may need to send them out sooner if you’re having a destination wedding that will require guests to stay in a hotel. They say that roughly 15 percent of the people you invite to your wedding won’t be able to attend, but there’s no way to predict who will be coming to your wedding until you get your RSVPs. Some people make things easy and respond to your invite within a week of receiving it, while others wait until the last moment, or don’t even bother responding at all. It’s important to get the number of guests on the RSVP card so you aren’t surprised by someone bringing their kids or an unexpected plus one.
12. The dreadful seating arrangements
So you finally get all of your RSVPs and your guest list is complete, which means it’s time for one of the most stressful parts of wedding planning: the seating arrangements! Sorting out the seating arrangements is as time consuming as it is frustrating. Depending on the size of your guest list, this task could take hours. Grouping people into sets of ten is harder than it may seem. You may want to designate some tables to friends, some to family and some to coworkers, but sometimes people fall into multiple categories. It can be hard to make sure everyone is at a table with other people they know or where they will have the most fun. It’s important to make sure you know how many seats are at each table your venue provides. You should also consider where you place your eldest guests because it may be easier for them to be seated by the entrance or away from the DJ.
13. Choosing the right hair and makeup artist
Unless you’re an actress or a model, chances are, your wedding will be the day that you are photographed the most in your life. Those photographs will be seen for years to come, so it’s important that you look your very best. Hiring a hair and makeup artist will help you achieve your dream wedding look, but it will take time to find the right one for you. You’ll have to browse through many pictures to see what hair and makeup look you want on your big day, and then you’ll have to do research to see which artists share your style. You have to keep your budget in mind and you should see if they have worked on clients with hair and skin that is similar to yours. The last thing you want is for your foundation to not match your body or for your hair to be a frizzy mess on your wedding day. Make sure you do a trial run and voice any concerns you have.
14. Not making a mess of your first dance
For some people, dancing comes naturally. For others, even a simple first dance will require some lessons. It’s important that you and your future husband are in sync and that you guys can dance confidently, especially when a crowd full of people are watching you slow dance! You may
even want to liven things up a bit and do a choreographed dance to a more upbeat song. That will definitely be a way to make sure that your guests never forget your wedding. Either way, a first dance requires a time commitment since you will need to practice it a few times. It can also take a while for you to choose which song you’ll dance to. Your partner may have a song in mind that you really don’t like, so you’ll have to find a song that you both love. It’s also the song that will remind you of your wedding for years to come, so make sure it’s a good one!
15. Wedding favours and bridal party gifts
Weddings usually have some favors for guests, so you will definitely want to think of a good gift that also matches either your wedding theme or your personality. Depending on how much you want to spend, you have a lot of options to choose from. You may end up monogramming a glass with your wedding date or giving out sweet treats. It’s important to order enough favors for all of your guests… and it’s always a good idea to have a few extra in case any of them get damaged. You will also want to give your bridesmaids gifts for helping you out with wedding planning and for throwing you a bachelorette and bridal shower. You’ll want to get your bridesmaids something that shows that you appreciate the effort they put into your big day. Definitely put aside a small budget to take care of your bridesmaids’ gifts and take some time to wrap it nicely and write a card.
Yes, accomplishing these 15 things can be tough, but once you master them, your big day will be one that both you and your guests will remember forever!
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